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The Bride’s Mirror: A self-examination for the modern church

Like a watchful watchman standing guard, the Book of Revelation calls out to the seven churches, urging them to repent and realign their hearts with Christ. Today, I’d like to echo a similar self-examination for the modern church but different call, not to specific congregations but to the broader body of Christ.

Amidst the vibrant congregations, we also find patterns of unfaithfulness and subtle distortions that mar the image of the radiant Bride Christ desires us to be. This article serves as a “Bride’s Mirror,” reflecting these patterns, not in malice but in hope. Recognizing our imperfections is the first step towards embracing the transformative grace that can make us whole.

Below are a list titled the Bride’s mirror, a reflection of unfaithful behavior to help identify imperfections for transformation for the bride of Christ. Look into The Bride’s Mirror, a reflection to illuminate paths toward transformation, and see if any resonate within your own heart. Like a faithful mirror, the categories below reveals areas for transformation, inviting the bride of Christ to embody her calling in preparing for christ.

Distorted view of Jesus:

Jesus as a wise teacher– while she recognizes Jesus as a wise teacher, her primary understanding of him seems limited to that role. This overshadows the transformative power of faith and his unique position as Lord,Savior, and His claims of religious exclusivity.

Repentance- calls to follow Jesus in her message often emphasize starting fresh or embarking on a new journey without strongly emphasizing the crucial need for repentance and turning from sin.

Jesus is one of many ways– her actions sometimes suggest a belief in multiple paths to God, which dilutes the exclusivity of Jesus’ claim as ‘The Way, The Truth, and The Life.’

Transformation– while she acknowledges Jesus as Lord, her recent actions have yet to fully reflect his teachings, raising questions about the depth of her conversion and commitment to his path.


Seduction- her communication and physical presentation can sometimes be construed as inappropriately alluring, overshadowing her message and often weaving sexual references into her communication.

Standard of holiness– Her interpretation of holiness, centered on transparency, vulnerability, and adapting to cultural norms, raises questions about its adherence to the fundamental biblical teachings on the subject.

Behavior- her actions sometimes involve harmful behavior like manipulation, gossip, and slander, undermining trust and control over others instead of serving them truthfully.

Disturbing silence: there’s a disturbing silence when it comes to addressing unclear stances on sexual immorality.

Unbalanced approach to scripture and doctrine: 

The Bible as a cultural artifact- while she acknowledges its historical and cultural significance, her approach sometimes falls short of fully embracing its authority as God’s inspired and infallible Word.

Elevates human traditions above God’s Word- some traditions in her ministry may inadvertently overshadow the teachings of the Bible, which should remain the ultimate source of truth and guidance.

Emphasizes experiences over doctrine- she does not teach beyond elementary truth to help establish believers in sound doctrine to help others grow in their knowledge of the Bible.

Tolerates false teaching- you will not hear her discredit false teaching; she tolerates false teaching under the disguise of unity in diversity. 

Theological grounding- her theological interpretations may lack the lineage and grounding in established schools of thought, potentially raising questions about their connection to traditional frameworks.

Distorted priorities and goals:

Loving your neighbor– while her focus on loving your neighbor is commendable, it’s important to remember that this love also compels us to share the transformative message of Christ and fulfill the Great Commission.

Ministry focus– her ministry may focus on specific demographics, potentially neglecting the needs of certain marginalized groups.

Public recognition– her priorities may be skewed towards public recognition and growing numbers rather than nurturing genuine faith and disciplining believers.

Political power– she seeks societal change through political means, which can sometimes be mistaken for the divine hand of God. This overlooks the transformative grace offered by Christ and risks placing misplaced confidence in human authority.

Prayer – her prayer life may lack genuine connection and depth, hindering her spiritual growth and connection with God.

Unhealthy community and leadership: 

Maintaining Healthy Relationships- her behavior may hinder her ability to consistently demonstrate the core Christian principle of loving one another.

Accountability and discipline- Instead of mirroring a devoted bride diligently tending the vineyard of community through biblical discipline, she evades accountability for herself and others. Any attempt at gentle correction is met with resistance, fostering an environment where Sin flourishes unchecked. This defiance delegitimizes leaders, emboldens rebellion, and risks eroding the very soul of the community.

The Christian community- her words paint a glowing picture of passion for the Christian community, yet beneath the surface lies a subtle undercurrent of distrust toward its leaders.

She’s a spiritual nomad –  A nomadic spirit in sheep’s clothing; she flitters between churches, consuming their resources and leaving when convenient. Contributions? Minimal. Hunger for personal gain? Insatiable. Faithfulness and loyalty? Strangers to her heart. She leaves communities when they no longer serve her needs while she seeks greener pastures.

Let’s keep the conversation going! What resonated with you most? What challenges you? I’d love to hear your thoughts! What questions do you have about this topic?


OlaDele Okuwobi

Dele Okuwobi, founder of Wonder Association, envisions co-laboring with Jesus build the most compelling movements that drive the church’s transition to Jesus’ message about the Kingdom of God by the end of the 21st Century. This vision unfolds through 21st Century Church, a church plant launched in Cincinnati, Ohio, in 2020, and the Love & Unity Project, a consulting and coaching agency that equips churches and organizations to combat personal and systematic bias through righteousness and justice. Their combined efforts aim to inspire lasting change and transformation, both within individuals and within the broader church community. serves as a global platform to amplify this vision, where they craft and mold a collection of messages to share the good news of the Kingdom of God and shift culture.”